If you keep doing what you’re doing, you keep getting what you’re getting.
How many times have you heard that saying?
Loads I imagine?
And do you?
Half the time, we don’t even realise what it is that we do keep doing that is getting the same results. And so we plough on.
I can testify to that. And it’s only when you hold a mirror up to yourself – like REALLY hold a mirror up and then zoom in that you actually realise (yep that!)
I talked in my last post about the safe shoes and comfy slipper syndrome. It’s a thing for sure. I do it, you do it. We all do it to a lesser or greater extent. Why not? We know what we’re going to get. We know what will keep us awake and what will continue to nag at us. There’s a comfort in the familiar after all, isn’t there? That doesn’t mean it’s what we want though.
The longer you play, the easier it gets. No change needed for things to stay the same.
But generally, we’ve all got our little stock of ‘I wish I could’s‘ or ‘I wish I knew how’s’ haven’t we? And we just live with them. ‘One day’ we say to ourselves, don’t we. But they don’t go away.
They generally stay in their box though. Unless something happens.
Or even better, we suddenly decide that we’re done and radical change is needed. And we start to take some action. Our ‘one day’ is today.
Quite what makes that happen is different for everyone.
So what are some of the things that stop us from taking action?
Time is certainly a factor. Either not enough of it or conversely, too much of the damn stuff.
What will people think?
How much of what other people ‘might’ think stops us from moving forward? Loads!
In all honesty though – who cares?
How does that affect you though – realistically? Does it make you stop wanting to do something? Unlikely. But it does make you stop nevertheless.
Truth Bomb Alert : People are generally too busy in their own lives to think too much about yours. As they should be.
Nice try though!
We don’t know what we want!
Yep. We know EXACTLY what we don’t want. What we DO WANT seems to be the illusive missing ingredient for our recipe. And that can often make us punch below our weight and accept second best, only to find we are back in the same boat before long.
Do any of these resonate?
I mentioned in my last post that I am training as a Personal Performance Coach. I am now half way through the training and have carried out lots of coaching sessions with clients as part of the practical side of my qualification. Being made redundant was my reason to use this time to really get ahead with my course and I have.
As part of the course I also have access to other coaches who support me with my goals. As I said before, ‘what a time to be made redundant’! And it is. Because just like you, I have many things on my list that I want to do. I too have been guilty of the ‘one day’ thinking but that suddenly changes when circumstance is thrust upon you. It takes you from the ‘I’ll get round to it’ mindset to the ‘now’. The now changes the dynamic somewhat because it means it time to follow a different route.
And what I’ve learned about the different route is that whilst it can be daunting, it is also incredibly empowering. We read so much about this sort of thing and we are surrounded by quotes that encourage motivation. And we all love a motivational quote don’t we!!! We have them on our notepad or on a print on our wall and it makes us smile every time we seem them. But the real joy is actually in taking part and achieving. Being responsible for our own outcome.
So where am I going with all of this?
Whilst I am training, I am in a position to offer coaching to ‘practice’ clients in order to work with as many people as possible prior to qualifying. This is very important to me. It will also help me to define the area that I would like to work in.
I am looking for a few more ‘practice’ clients and I wanted to put this out to readers of this blog.
I need two people that would be interested in coaching sessions that are available to start within the next couple of weeks. And further, I will be looking for more people at the end of August. EDIT : I have enough people for now. There are a couple of slots left for end of August.
Is this something that would be of interest to you?
The thing that drives this is that there have been oftentimes when I have been in a position where I really could have done with a coach myself. Generally, those times have been when I could ill afford it. When I was starting out with a small business being one of them. When costs outweigh income. Or upon reaching a life stage where I’ve needed to move on and not being quite sure of what path I’m going to take next.
So if offering some practice sessions, help to move someone forward to achieving or getting out of a ‘rut’, then that I can gladly do.
And let’s face it, many of us have been busy doing things for others – we may be parents or carers (to name but a few) and things change. We suddenly have more time to do the things that we want to. Yet when we get that time, it can overwhelm us with a sense of loss and instead of choosing opportunity, we feel like we are lacking in some way. Unsure of what to do next. And the thing we most need is a little more confidence – but it’s generally in short supply at these times.
So we add to that load by doing what we do best. Comparing ourselves with what we think others are doing. Please don’t. If you have something that’s been going round and round for a while, please do get in touch via the link below.
There is no charge for these practice sessions. However, for coaching to be successful, there needs to be commitment. That is something that money cannot buy. Being present and showing up is another one. So all that I require from you is your commitment and a willingness to provide a small note for my coursework.
So if this is something you would be interested in, please do get in touch directly. You can do this via the little red envelope icon (top right of the page) or by go to the ‘Contact‘ Page and drop me an email. Once you have made contact, we can talk further about whether coaching is the right thing for you and whether we are suited to working together.
I won’t be responding to or publishing any comments on this post so if you do decide that you would like to find out more, please do get in touch in confidence via the way I have suggested above.
As always, thank you for reading